Video – better relationship, better health!
Whatever you’ve been experiencing in life, there’s no doubt that your mind plays a major role in physical illness – probably even including gluten allergy symptoms – and therefore getting to grips with the mental aspect of illness is essential.
As far back as Hippocrates it was accepted that the mind and the body were intimately related, and I think most people would accept that today – perhaps even some people in the medical profession!
From the point of view of health and relationships, it’s clear that enjoying a good relationship is absolutely essential to good health – it’s quite obvious why when you think about why that might be: being in relationship gives you support, somebody to talk to, somebody to share experiences with, somebody to bounce ideas off, and somebody to support you when you’re feeling depressed – as well as sharing the joy, of course.
One of the interesting things about physical illnesses is that in a relationship where people are closely connected, the level of physical illness tends to be much lower than it does when people are disconnected and feeling separated from each other.
It follows therefore that if you have some pernicious physical condition, such as gluten allergy, it can be really helpful for you to stay in a relationship where you get support and love and affection from your partner (as well as getting help with practical issues that may arise from your allergy).
The old saying that “a trouble shared is trouble halved” is definitely true, there being plenty of scientific evidence to demonstrate that people in good relationships fare better physically, last longer – that is to say live longer – and generally experience fewer painful and discomforting symptoms of illness than those who are not in relationship or those who are in a “bad” relationship.
What this means of course is that it’s incumbent on every one of us to find some way of increasing our relationship skills so as to improve our physical health.
Actually having a partner in life in a relationship which is connected and intimate – whether it’s a sexual relationship or not – acts as a soothing factor that allows you to feel more comfortable more relaxed.
(Evidence has demonstrated that it’s not the act of petting a dog or cat that brings about better health and lower blood pressure: it’s about the actual act of soothing sweeping motions of the hand which stimulate the nervous system and reduce cortisol output and all the other symptoms of stress.)
Ergo, if you are a person who is sensitive to your environment, and if you are actually experiencing some kind of stress-related illness, then finding yourself a partner who can support you with these issues is clearly going to be very helpful.
One of the problems, of course, is that in many cases relationships are seen as difficult to enter into when people are feeling ill or unwell – but this is completely untrue because relationships start for all kinds of reasons and provide all kinds of benefits.
If you’re actually in a relationship with somebody who loves you, then the question of your physical illness should be a major issue for either of you, but in fact should perhaps even be a point of connection and contact – especially if you’re oriented to helping others in life.
So what is this all leave us with?… With a very clear sensation of the practical aspects of being in relationship, the practical aspects of knowing how you can improve the chances of better health, and in better circumstances…